One of the things I learned today is that my wife had a conversation last night (I was out, trying to GAL) with the boys, and she told them that we were getting a divorce, among other things, and told my oldest not to talk to me about it. This puts him in a terrible position, so I tried to talk to him about there being no secrets about mom and dad's situation. It just strikes me as incredibly mean spirited for her to do that.
My situation now, in my mind, is such that I think, along with setting boundaries, I need to change some habits. Maybe I'm too controlling, maybe there is some truth in her saying that. And I hate that our situation feeds into that (me having to dole out the money bc she was "stealing" it, etc). I guess I need to really GAL, and I'm not doing as good a job at that as I thought previously. Who knows.
I'm tired of this up and down emotional trauma. One minute I'm feeling strong, then the next minute I'm feeling hopeless.
Thanks to everyone for your support. I set up my third DB coaching session for Tuesday (I did one each in Oct and Nov, respectively). I'm just realizing how lonely it will be tonight to have my wife in my house tonight only in physical form.
