See your point robx. I haven't read BTM entire stitch so I probably should have held back on my posts and in no way was I trying to imply that BTM wasn't doing a great job in DBing. I guess I was just confused looking at things from a female perspective who is now considered a WAW that my husband is also not pursuing, GAL, etc. I want my husband to pursue me even though I am the one that left. I moved out and will move forward with getting an apartment if my husband continues to act like life is grand and detached from me. I will read BTM entire stitch before posting but sometimes I am confused as a now WAW in that if my husband was up here following DB advice by not pursuing, GAL, etc. I would just assume that he wasn't interested in me or our marriage.
You said you would assume that your husband isn't interested in you but you also mention above that YOU WANT YOUR HUSBAND TO PURSUE.... hmmmm..... if I didn't know better, I would think his tactics might be working. Do you see how it works, he doesn't do anything, ACT AS IF (db principle) life is great, and detaches from you, and what effect does it have on you? You want him to pursue you, YOU STILL WANT HIM.
I would say what your husband is doing appears to be working on you.
And if i'm not mistaken, what BTM is doing is starting to show on his wife as well, he didn't prompt her to say anything about the relationship, she volunteered that herself plus she offered him a few kisses as well voluntarily and why? ..... because he detached, stopped pursuing and she naturally closed the distance between them.
In the end, a good rule of thumb to follow is this, if a person doesn't want to be with you by their own choice, let go of those people.
