When you say "jerk the rug from under her" do you mean stop treating her like a friend if I need to.
I do not know if I could give up the tough love act. It helps protect me and lets her know what divorce is really like. I do not have a problem swallowing pride (for the family), but how can I let go of a relationship while trying to maintain some of the status quo (e.g., dinners out)?
She understands why I have refused family time...it is not fair to me. I do not like the "victim" image that sentiment portrays. There is a fine line here and I'm seem to be having a hard time finding it. I also think it is important to keep your pride so at a miminum respect is achieved.
What other 180's could I try? Your input has been great!!!!
