Looking for Advice

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Thanks Sandi. I need to refer to some of these, some doing ok on, others not quite as much.
Question on the do not spy. What about my situation, having exposed the EA and (like you) suspect the communication continues despite the boundary. I think they are just more clever. I highly suspect it just down to e-mails on an account I can't access and possibly some instant messaging/chatting type stuff, but that couldn't be much because we have been around each other so much.
Do I try to spy on the e-mail or do I let that go (that would be a 180)?

In the past couple of days, I have been able to see the titles of 2 e-mails that have come to W...not able to see who sent them and not able to read them. But the titles are suspect: "should have thought of this sooner" and "morning"

I do believe the EA has been throttled way back due to the confrontation. OM lives thousands of miles away and I've taken away all the easy ways for them to talk. But I think it hangs on by a thread via e-mail.
Is this one where I just have to wait/hope that they decide to end things, or??

And there is a big opportunity today for communication later today via e-mails or chats on the iphone as she going to get her hair done...so that is like 3 hours with no threat of me being around...I would love to ask her/r the remind her about no communication, but at this point, that would probably not be the right move