K4D It's a Wonderful Life

[K4D]

Don't speculate or you will drive yourself crazy and it will take your focus off what needs to be done.

True and I will not be speculating further. I don't care what she does at this point. I only care about how my kids are affected.

The only facts you have right now are (A) he is visiting this weekend and staying the the marital home (B) your W has plans to go bowling with OM and the children and (C) the cell/text records. Anything further speculation is a waste of your mental energy and time. YOU MUST DETACH.

I'm detached at this point. Last night was the final nail in the coffin for me.

I don't care if you have to physically sew your lips shut. Do not say a WORD to your W about ANYTHING. Do not send her *any* texts or e-mails - tie your hands if you must. Consider any contact you have with her as ammunition to be used against you.

I am going strictly no contact. And I agree. She has been keeping everything to use against me. She let that be known sometime ago. I won't further enable that.

I know this is going to be hard to hear but there were not any glimmers of hope in a very, very long time. You wanted to see glimmers so you accepted any crumb. I am glad you decided not to allow your W to lead you around on a leash anymore. It's no way to live and solidify an amazing future for you and your girls. And you certainly don't want your girls to follow in your W's footsteps. Be the better example by being civil, respectful and strong. It is an absolute thing of beauty to see you finally getting on this path.

I agree, I was grasping at crumbs for far to long and there was never anything there. I was holding out hope for something that was just not there. I will be the better example. This is all stuff I am needing to hear this morning to help me make the best decisions for how to proceed from this point on.

Kevin