One more thing... I am not suggesting you don't let yourself feel what you are feeling. When H wasn't around (as well as kids) I let myself have a good cry, I would rage, punch pillows, etc. Those emotions are real and valid and need to come out. But, I would not let the emotions control me. When around my H I did my best to be in control, calm, lovingly detached and setting boundaries. Was I always successful at this? Of course not. We are human. But, it is definitely the best approach.
And I know that my GALing got his attention! So, you go out tonight with the kids, with your girlfriend... whoever! Dress up, feel good, look good and have fun! You deserve it after everything you have been thru!
