Oh Antlers, it's folks like you that have been in that storm and know just the right thing to say to GoldyLox. Never think you are not being used in a good way here on DB board.
All I know to do is pray and give a hug, (((GoldyLox))).
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!