HHH and LFA-

Just now able to get back on line and read thru your postings.

It does seem we have similiar sitches.

I will read more as I have time (visiting with family, lots of kids) but wow, reading thru so much pain hurts so much.

I know the main thing now is DETACH. I am trying to repeat that as a mantra.

And I'm working more on "thought stopping." My anxiety has keyed back up these past few days of travelling, so it is harder than usual.

Any tips and tricks on "detach" and "thought-stopping" are much appreciated!


Me: 44
Him: 42
Together: 23 years; never married
Bomb: August 1, 2009
Affair since May 2009
Walk away; no conversation; no process