I know the laws of Texas and NY are much different but one thing my attny had me do was make a list of items my H could present to the courts against me if push came to shove. Obviously we can't mind read but my attny said even if it seemed like a small thing to really brainstorm and put pen to paper so we could be prepared.
In your case be sure to mention to your attny that you did drink often, you passed on a higher paying job and let your W earn the bucks, you went to Florida leaving your children to be cared for full time by your W and so on. I am not trying to rehash the past but divorce can get ugly and I highly doubt your W will back down and pull out all the cards she has against you.
This is not about your W hanging herself. This is about Kevin starting a new life where he has self respect and the opportunity to flourish as an individual and father.
