how to 180 when you've been too independent?

[avermont]

Hi Serenity

My last posting was whether I should let X's other side of the family know the "real story" as he is heading there with OW for NYE.

I think I found a good compromise.

I found one of the cousins on FB, and sent her basically the same note I sent the MIL and FIL: thank you for making me part of the family all these years.

I added: part of the pain of losing X so "unexpectedly" is losing family, too.

So the main gist of the note was about saying "Thanks".

I feel pretty good about it. I did honestly want to check in with that side of the family.

Now the next challenge: 1st NYE to get through.