Hi, I am in desperate need for some kind of light at the end of the tunnel. I have been separated for 3 years and divorced for the last 2. XH left for OW. After a year I decided to start dating again (actually after the divorce was final). He kept reminding me that it was over and he did not love me any longer. He also remarried a year and a few months of us being separated. When I did start dating more officially a real wonderful man WH started being more “friendly”. By Oct 08 he wanted to come back. We gave it a “try” in feb., he lasted a big 48 hours before returning to OW. In Oct 09 he moved out and got his own place and seems real serious about returning and making things work. However, I have lost all trust. I would love to be able to trust him but for so many MANY reasons I don’t. He still see’s OW, says that once he is worked out everything he will stop seeing her…. but I have some serious doubts… I still care deaply for him as he is the father of my children and we did share something wonderful prior to all this…. I guess what I want to know is can you ever learn to trust once all trust has been blasted away. Thanks a million for taking a minute to read me.
