I am so GD sick of dealing with the fallout from her A. She had an astrological reading for him yesterday and wanted to tell me what the astrologer said the significance of the A. She then told me that her and OM could still be friends. I went directly to her workplace. I calmly, but frimly told her that I did not need to reiterate my boundries. She knows where I stand. I added, "I understad you need to rationalize what happened for your self. I can respect that need. However, he is not a part of my life. It is not healing for me to listen to you justify this A. Therefore, as I said yesterday, I will not raise him as a topic of discussion anymore. It does me no good to discuss this with you." In response I got "You are controlling" "you are threatening me". My respose was, "I am not telling you what to do or how to do anything. I am not dictating what you can nd cant do. I am telling you this is not something I will have in my life. What you do is completely up to you." We later spoke. She wanted me to tell her how she was supposed to avoid contact as a practical matter. I told her this was her problem to solve. She then explained how she intended to avoid contact. So, again, I got anger and compliance. I am so sick of dealing with this OM.
I think she is just coming to terms with his absence. She is a bit like an alcoholic trying to justify the harmlesness of taking another drink. She wants to go to the AA meeting then drop by the tavern on her way home. Anyway, I am sick of dealing with this A crap.
