I have been positive around her for sometime now...3-4 months. During that time not much changed but on occassion I would get a really nice Hi when I called or a question about how I was doing. Maybe these were baby steps but hard to know for sure. I do know during this time the R with the OM has become much more serious so to be honest my pevious efforts seem fruitless. When I found out about how serious things had become I decided to change my approach (very limited contact and friendly but not friends) and she seemed taken back by this. She did not say anything but I could tell it effected her.
So, does the nice guy (friends), non-pursuit approach work? Well, it does give her the best of both worlds. She can be in love with an OM and be friends with her ex...I would want that if I were in her position. I guess when it comes down to it, I would rather be friends with her than enemy's, especially for the kids. I have the burden of pulling that off and if I can, I think that is something to be proud of.
