Hi everyone, Wanted to get some input on recent events, H spent christmas eve and day alone. He called the kids several times during the day, From what they were saying I could tell he was crying, he made up some excuses to talk to me, but was not emotional at all. He spent most of the day on the phone with someone here (me or 1 of our 5 teenagers). Next day he called me, very emotional,"yesterday was the worst day of my life, I (he) have got to pull my head out of my a$$...." Has he perhaps finally hit the perverbial rock bottom??? There has been alot of contact since then, more in person than on the phone...jokes, smiles, calles me honey alot latley. Then lastnight he called, started out causious they finally began to break down. He asked "how did we get here...what happened to us"...this led into a long conversation concerning things that led up to his leaving. He is sticking with much of his "rewritten history" I listened to him and tried to validate his feeling with out agreening to any of his fabrications. I also accepted blame and agreed to things that he was right about.I did not throw any accusations at him, I did'nt think it was the right time for that, this was really the first major time of him opening up to me. Not just hints here or there. I was also given the opportunity tell him that I loved him and that I forgave him, uncondidtonally, because thats how REAL love works, without being pushy or needy. As if just stating the facts as I see them. I was kinda proud of myself for not reacting, there were opportunities. We did'nt talk it all out but decided to table it for the night. His last comment was that we will contiune this later, it enden on a good note, I think it went well. lt
