hey everyone need opinions please...moving has been an issue since b4 h left.
we pay a chunk in rent and have problems that do not get tended to by the landlord. we believe because they would be a big expense...ll has ALWAYS been good just these things arent being taken care of
anyways, we need to stay in the same area for sake of the girls not changing schools.
reading the paper this morning i found an apt. in our area...not many houses or apt ever come up for rent...very small town.
anyways im speaking with her and it turns out it is a 2 bdrm apt on the first floor and an efficency apt on 2nd floor...
could be perfect however i havent gone to look at it and to be honest im afraid to bring it up...
h ALWAYS complains of his long drive...we could literally be in the same building but still in 2 different places...
also no worrying about apt living with kids if it were your spouse that is above or below you...
thoughts? _________________________ me 39 h 38 ( in mlc for 3+ years????) kids 8 and 5 h left 8/9/09 bomb mid oct 09 loving and devoted wife and mother
me 39 h 38 kids 9 and 6 h left 8/9/09 loving and devoted wife and mother still going...10 months later...
I wouldn't suggest it to him. Once again, you are trying to be the fixer/mother to help him out. He has to learn how to do these things for himself. Be your children's mother and let your man/child find a way to grow up w/o your assistance. If this man were serious about his complaints about the long drive, he would have found something closer by now. Let it be. Save yourself and your children.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
If the other apartment is better for you and your daughter then move to it.
Your expectations about what he should be doing with your daughter will bite you in the ass. You are effectively a single parent. And you need to be strong for her.
Experience is a brutal teacher, but you learn. My God, do you learn. - C.S. Lewis
Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B. - Jack3Beans
Listen without defending; Speak without offending - FaithinAK
If the apt is a good move for you and the kids, go for it.
You really need to think of yourself as a single parent. I have a frame of mind that has been helpful for me; it is that my H is a friend that is just really into my D's. That way when I say something and don't get any feedback, I can just let it run off without any worries and do what I think is best.
The more you try to do what you think will make him happy, the more pressure you put on him (interestingly enough) and the worse you feel when it doesn't work.
ok we go to the mall...guess who we run into? by himself looking down...
you got it! hubby was there too...wtf
now girls are even more wound up...we all walk store to store looking for specific webkinz...aarrrgggg
he is now hungry wondering if we are too? this is what pisses me off...if i say no the kiddos are pissed...if i go im upset with myself...
my bad, we went, would've had to anyways...let him pay.
it was actually a nice lunch to be honest.
d 8y/o has dr appt at 4...figured i wouldnt see him until then. it was a med check for her...he has always come because of the importance...
anyways, we are leaving the restaurant and he says he has to go pay the insurance, then hes heading back to mom and dads...whatever...45 min out there...bout 15 to our house...he 'll see us about 4...
me and the girls get home they are on computer doin their webkinz...i sit down to watch my recording of Men of A Certain Age with a nice cup of coffee...who the f comes through the door?
you got it....aaaaaaaaarrrrrrrrrrrrggggggggggggg!!!!its only like 1:30.....
come on????
i excuse myself...im gonna go read and/or but leave that show on...
i napped actually...h woke me about 3:30...
he didnt talk much...didnt give him any reason to. when he did he was pleasant...
he is as confused as I am in my opinion!
me 39 h 38 kids 9 and 6 h left 8/9/09 loving and devoted wife and mother still going...10 months later...
Time means nothing to them. They think everyone is here to serve them or be at their beck and call. By him coming early, you were able to take a nap and the old boy woke you in time for the appointment.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
