One day at a time....

[Hope4us]

Sorry I've been AWOL for a week Rocked, but I think it's outstanding that you recognize how your job affects you.

Same for W and I. She HATES her job and she has that job because of me being transferred for our company (W and I work for the same company). When I got transferred, the company found W a job at one of our sites near my site, but at the time it was the only job available for her. So she took it. And HATES it. But in the typical catch-22, she does a great job at it and now they don't want her to leave it even though there have been other positions open up at her location.

Ok, that's a long intro to say that I struggle with the same thing in my W that you are. But she just doesn't see it. She is so different during the week vs. the weekends. Anyone that's been with me for the last year and a half knows that that is one of the things I've struggled with, trying to know if W was secretly in contact with OM while at work (he is a contractor she met at work who then moved 250 miles away to another of our sites) or if it's the stress of her job and really not liking what she's doing. I've talked to her about those same things you shared and she'll make the effort for a week or so and then will slip back into that same pattern and I'll have to remind her again.

It's getting better as I'm sure it will for you now that you recognize it. Just another piece of piecing. These things can't be changed overnight, but if you recognize and are working on it, you'll get there.