Right first off the lingerie is for you! Bet youve put the sexy little minx you used to be in a drawer and forgotten how to be her! If she has turned into bridgette jones knickers you need action now lol! Honestly all jokes aside, I lost a lot of weight and went and got remeasured for undies, the first day I wore my new set I felt fantastic..
Secondly if you hang them on the airer they show that you are looking after yourself and that you consider yourself to be sexy, therefore when Mr H4L sees them in his less than foggy moments he might? wonder are they for him or someone else..
He is just pushing the boundaries at the moment going out 1) cos he is in his selfish fog 2) he wants to see if you react 3) he is just testing you!
You have the right idea, consider non H time as ME time and use it.. do those fluffy bits, get your hair cut, go shopping etc.. So when he comes home ready to rub in his fun stuff you keep quiet say "thats nice glad you enjoyed yourself" and ignore the rest..
If you feel any panic about doing something allow yourself 24/48hrs to think about it, and make a sensible plan of action.. You can train yourself not to panic, or at least keep it in check. Dont know if your like me but embarrassment was a biggie for me, probably came from my parents that it was an embarrassment if you didnt keep organised and make everything look hunky dory. Well your most embarrassing thing has happened now your M has gone pearshaped, yes its horrid to face but hell what else could be worse. I actually dont wear my wedding ring any more and I dont care, it wasnt my fault H left without talking to me, and its not yours that your H is being like he is either. So hold your head up high and get on with things for little S. I have an S but hes way bigger than your chap he is nearly 22!
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