This is a difficult, yet rewarding, learning process. New skills take time to hone.
He's still being blatantly disrespectful by spending online time with her at your home. AND he feels it's appropriate.
Listen to Steve McQueen. Your spouse responded to your boundaries. Keep them. It's so easy to excuse hurtful behavior, blame yourself when it comes to a spouse you love.
But, ask yourself. Is this how a best friend, lifetime partner, someone who loves me would treat their best friend, lifetime partner, someone who loves me?
Do he have your best interests at heart?
Is he someone you trust?
If this were happening to your best friend, what would you advise?
Take care of you. Become the best you can be, emotionally, spiritually, physically. It's a process, one step at a time.
