Still here and following Serenity, and great to hear you doing great .
oh, just a word on the OP comparison thingy, better to move away from that sooner rather than later. WAS would never see your point of view, it's either they see something you don't, you're shallow, "it's not about looks/ height/ character/ boob size/ penile size/ eye color/ intelligence etc" (delete where appropriate). They're BENEATH you period. Doesn't matter if you're Danny De Vito and they look like Brad Pitt; you're penniless and they're rich.
I know I certainly found the world a much better place once I cleared my thoughts on that one. I wasn't entirely joking in another post when I said the best response when a WAS drops you the ILY crumb out of nowhere is to say "Yep, and I love me too". If you think you found your soulmate and Mr/Ms Perfect, go for it! I'm letting someone else(s) find me - the lucky sod! Part and parcel of detaching lol.
Me 42 W 39 Married: 11 Jan 1998, T: Since 1992 First Bomb: Sep 2007 Confirmed A/OM: 4 Nov 2007 Kids: D10, S5 Reconciled and together again after (alot of) time and heartbreak. 3rd kid, S, born 2 Jan 2010.