In the past he hasn't wanted to talk and has generally given the impression that even answering my calls was an inconvenience. And now I am the one ending the conversations. I am the one with something to do (though I never say what) and though I'm friendly I'm also ready to get off the phone. It feels good, like I'm in control of the situation.
Thats exactly whats going on! A big part of how well we cope with situations is how much we feel out of control. Im glad that you are feeling good- now dont give that control up.
As far as your dad goes... thats a tough one. Your right, he does have the right to put some rules down, but you do need to stand up for your kiddos when hes being unreasonable! So, your fury is warranted, dont feel bad! What about making sure to take the kids somewhere for some much needed energy burnoff?
I guess I gave the wrong finger to the wrong man...
