I'm the same in a lot of ways. I tried so hard to make her happy and when I couldn't -- because I now know I can't, only she can make her happy -- I'd crash emotionally as well.

I still get a high when we have a good conversation. That's why Christmas was so hard.

I'm past thinking that being nice to her will make her come back. I'm nice to her because I'm a nice person and I now understand unconditional love.

A couple of people have smacked with 2x4s saying the nice guy approach never works. Well, what's the opposite? Being an ass.

I don't understand that. If she starts to realize the grass isn't greener on the other side and turns back to me ... only to see someone who is bitter, angry and more interested in scoring points than in rebuilding the relationship, why would she come back?

Me: 47, Ds 17-13, D final 6-11
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