Reacting inside, trying to say nothing until I know the right thing to do - pls. help!
last week we were so close, this week he is taking time off from work, which is good in that there hasn't been the usual verbal lashings. But he's been going out and not inviting us, or offering to take S at all. Feels like he's rubbing my face in the fact that he's going out with friends (I often wonder if there's a girl, but probably not), and going on hikes ALONE - (presumably) but no offers of taking S or definitely not me. Also refuses to join us to family friends' house when invited.
Don't want to pursue! Want to act like I'm too focussed on my life to care. But also wanting to take advantage of any free and relaxed time H has - he's here tonight, even though we've been spending every night together, I've gone back to retreating into my room to only come out if invited (otherwise, showing I'm too busy) = this is what I did before when he was behind the stone cold brick wall, but now that there's cracks in the wall - do I approach? Do I invite him for a show tonight? for some time this week? Or do I keep doing my own thing and only respond if pursued by him? HELP
So, there's hot and cold. Well luke warm and cold. Guess it goes in waves. Must be a pullback. Guess I just act "as if" - like if we had no problems, I would support him going out by himself. He never did this before he left, so it feels threatening. Advice as to how to respond when he dangles that stuff in front of me?
I know I'm supposed to do my own things, GAL, not pursue but I feel like he's "DBing" me! All this mystery and independence does get my goat. Advice?
