One day at a time....

[Deep]

Hello again rocked .

Well, IMHO, as you enter deeper into "piecing" the whole 180 thingy loses relevance, except where it affects behaviour / traits that you should be looking to change to be a better person. In fact, it could be a source of harm. As the WAS fog fades, stability and the re-restablishment of certain aspects of the relationship are important.

Of course, always balance that against the duality of the WAS / remorseful spouse identity, which is anything but consistent in its progression / regression lol.

Rocked, remembering your role as a W is commendable! I seriously think it is the most important of all roles you play in life. I myself grew very resentful of my W and had WAS like feelings due to perceptions of being sidelined. My withdrawal from her caused some of the problems / mutual resentment that then grew in her. Too bad she beat me to the WAS punch (kidding!). One of the early signs that told me she was "coming back" was when she told me voluntarily that in the A, she had lost herself and only wanted selfish gratification, but even before that, she had forgotten that with finances, kids, in-laws et al, she should never have forgotten she was firstly a wife, married to a H who had needs.

Cheers.