Pls help--confused and fearful

[newmama]

So yes, drop the rope. But I think it's because mentally you have to. Just don't expect the same results when there is an A involved.

At least, that is my experience and my 2p worth.

I think people forget that A's are temporary relationships most of the time. Dropping the rope does not mean the WS will come running right away. But after the A is over, they will. (more than likely based on what the vets say here)

And P, you have "dropped the rope" for a little more than a month, so I do not think you can rule out its effectiveness yet!!!!!! patience...painful patience...

DBD, be wary of what your Ls tell you. They have a job to do and other motivations behind their advice. Financial support is necessary, but YOU are paying THEM so if you don't want to file for D, don't! So what if you file separately for financial support and then file for D later if you choose? It just makes me think they are treating it like you are taking your car to the shop to have the radiator fixed but the transmission is kind of acting up too. They have to do the work of pulling out the radiator to get to the transmission so it would be easier for them to fix both at once. Otherwise if you go back later, they have to do the work of pulling out the radiator and it will mean more work for them. So, maybe to them, you could take care of everything all at once. (this is my complete uninformed opinion!!)

So I'm glad you will make WH do the legwork because he also will have to pay the filing fees!!! And will probably end up paying your L fees too!! _________________________