Hope and heartache

[motherof3]

This is where there's a disconnect between the DB forum advice, LBS rules and DB counselor advice.

Many will say I'm allowing her to cake-eat, vent like I'm at home without being at home. Dottie told me to look for opportunities like this, where I can show her I'm listening and not trying to fix things, that I'm genuinely interested in her. That's a 180. Toward the end, I used to kind of shut these conversations down because W wouldn't take my advice. I was too stupid to realize she didn't want my advice, she just wanted to vent.

I am no expert, but IMO, do what works. But take it very slowwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwww.

I am comfortable with my decision and will continue to work on me.

You are right. Every sitch is different. What works in one sitch may or may not work in another. You need to make the best decision for you and your kids. It sounds like you have done that.

Mo3