Moving back in

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she has something planned that she is working on,,,

I'll lay my odds on this one. She's detaching & separating.. "yours" "mine".

just happy with the fact that I stood up for my self and she swimming in the consequences of her actions...

Yep you stood up for yourself.. It is empowering to do so. but I'm confused how is that actions SHE took & what consequences are you referring to? What do you mean by this statement?

Seems to me, & I realize I represent a minority perspective on heere...like you have shown her you can't be trusted to follow through on what you said you'd do.

The way I understand it.. you BOTH agreed to take a 6 months separation with you leaving the marital home.. did I misunderstand that piece?

Then, you unilaterally decided to not continue to do that & move back home without talking it over with her the same respect she showed you in asking for the separation, & not only that you dropped this on her in MC at the last minute as the counselor pointed out.

From a WAW perspective.. you just confirmed you can't be trusted to do what you say you're going to do.

Just for the record, LBS aren't the only ones who work by the premise, believe none of what they say & only 1/2 of what they do.

I really like how you addressed the kids with honesty & dignitiy... however, for the most part they will be old (12 & 15 right?) enough to make decisions of where they want to be.

Be prepared though for them to make choices different than what you 'think' they should make & what they "should" be comfortable with.

I don't think you can keep their mother from sharing custody with you if she leaves the home.. she can't 'kidnap' them obviously, but you also can't hold them hostage & keep them from her new abode either, if that is the path she chooses to take.

I hope you find the strength & compassion for yourself & her to deal with this in the patient, honorable way I'm sure you will need & want to do.

Peace
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