Dusk at Dawn.

[chatterbug]

got lots of questions to answer will do tomorrow... Thanks guys and gals.

Its a hard path we walk in darkness.

But I am prepairing for what she has coming at me next.
Spite. Attempt to regain control.
I see this game forming right now.
Going at her family to stop talking to me.
Trying to turn friends against me.
Going to try to push me out of my Saturday night hang out.
Emails and phone calls will start up again on selling house and "loose ends"
Pushing my buttons to see if I care.
Its all so childish. And its easy to see right thru it.

How to combat it?
Spite you combat with silence and lovingly detatch.
Control. Well only I am incontrol of my life.
Family : Keep in touch , be the loving son-inlaw, brother-inlaw, uncle that I am. ( Did that today with MIL and FIL... They had me over for dinner ...and this weekend BIL and SIL are taking me out for dinner )
Friends : Informed them that spite is coming. And that I do not wish to hear about it. Also mentioned that she is around again because OM has kids that night so she is looking to kill time with people that I hang out with. A Push. And that if they are going out with her that night to just give me a heads up. That way in can make other plans because I do not want to make anyone uncomfortable or place them in the middle. Support the person not the adultery speach...
Emails and phone calls... silence
Button pushing. Well thats why you double or triple thread them. I am no longer the pushover that I became as our marriage went on. Perhaps she will releaze this one day. Perhaps not.

Ahh the game. One you can control or one you react in. I have decided that I am in control. I decided this on Sept. 17th 2009
One plans for reactions. So I am prepaired.