Hope and heartache

[ClingingToHope]

Interestingly, it's mostly the guys saying move home and ladies saying that moving home would make W hate me.

Yes. I made a mistake initially by moving out, but there's a couple of points I probably never made clear. The house is a huge burden on W. It's big, creaky, hard to keep up. So she's having to do all of that herself and she's running out of money. It's a major eye-opener for her.

My townhouse is nice. Easy to maintain. The girls are comfortable here. W told me back in September she's jealous of the place because it's laid out so much better.

I've worked really hard to build a life here for me and the girls. The way I read the DB rules you are supposed to show the WAW that you are moving on with your life and show them a confident, strong man.

Unless my attorney tells me Monday that I'm jeopardizing my chance at joint physical custody by having moved out, I'm staying put. I think this place has helped me tremendously in giving W the space and time she needs to miss me. I don't want to move home unless she asks me.

If that never happens -- so be it.

Robx, SMcQueen, I appreciate the input. I'm watching DDog, but I don't think that will work for me. In fact, I think it would wipe out the progress I've made on myself the past eight months. I'm starting to feel like the emotional attachment is starting to fade.

Another thing is that I get to see my girls every school day after school. So I'm not being deprived of time with them.