Pls help--confused and fearful

[Day by Day]

Thanks for kicking around the ideas... YES WAH should do all the legwork. I've been assembling all the paperwork and it's a huge project!

No, what I meant is my L thinks me having him file for D is a psychological tactic on my part since he wants to be able to make me the "bad guy" who filed. She also said she only did about 4 of those in the year compared to D filing. The other L I consulted also didn't like the idea of just financial support either.

I do think it's postponing the inevitable. He doesn't want me and it's like I'm clinging on to him regardless of how disrespectful, cruel and deceitful he is. Like I don't respect myself.

He now makes plans for visitation through the kids and NOTIFIES them of when he will pick them up. He'll be seeing them for a couple hours NYE. They don't want any time with him and have let him know it. He doesn't get it how he's affected them.

I've got lots to think over before Monday. You've read how nasty he is. I don't see anything else I can do...