K4D It's a Wonderful Life

[CityGirl]

HEALTH & WELL BEING GOALS:
1. By Jan. 10, 2010 schedule all monthly dr's appt's, labs, diagnostic testing, C'ing appts, yoga classes for all of 2010
2. 3 yoga classes per week, 3 cardio sessions per week for all of 2010.
3. Research bicycles/helmets for purchase once winter is over.
4. Purchase new sneakers for Spring

FINANCIAL & ADMINISTRATIVE GOALS:
1. Make appt. with tax advisor before Feb. 15th for consult on how to file taxes for 2009 (married filing single or joint). If my hit is minimal for filing married-separate I will let exH know I have decided to file on my own. I would prefer to file separate however that decision will be guided by the advice I get from the tax advisor.
2. By Dec. 31st 2010 my goal is to have a full 12 months of living expenses saved. Currently I have 4.5 months saved in addition to my long term savings.
3. Give H a deadline to reimburse me for legal fees and credit card bills of Jan. 20th or further legal action will be taken at his expense. Our Agreement was finalized and accepted by the courts on Nov. 17, 2009 and he has had ample time.
4. Make will with attny by March 1, 2010.

BUSINESS GOALS:
I prefer not to post these for public view.

HOUSEHOLD:
1. Refinish bed frame and redecorate master bedroom.
2. Complete the HUGE task of sorting through boxes and boxes of photos from my childhood and scan them. There are so many I plan to do a batch each month.
3. Request exH commit to a firm date to pick up the last remaining pieces of furniture he has here and remove his items from our storage shed. I am not running a free storage facility for wayward spouses. He will claim he has nowhere to put them but tough.
4. Pick up entertainment center from Mom's house and refinish
5. Organize all my digital photos (this is about 50% done)

FUN STUFF:
1. Sign up for Latin ballroom dance class my neighbor and I are taking when he returns from vacation on Jan. 18th.
2. Research plane fares and create budget for the four trips I plan to take this year
3. Neighbor and I made a pact that each month we would try something new. Feb. we are visiting an indoor "rock climbing" facility to give it a try (can you wear high heels while doing this?
4. Renew passport (I guess that is administrative)
5. Continue volunteering with Lupus Alliance and begin preparation for the major fundraiser that takes place in the Fall of 2010. Continue my Meals on Wheels route once per week. My route is very small and takes so little time I don't know why everybody doesn't do this!

LIFE ALTERING:
1. Decide once and for all if I will make the move to CA.

Embrace the blessing of turning 35 this year and enjoy the hell out of 2010!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Ok - I posted a short list that I will focus on for the next month or two.

[K4D]

That is quite a list of goals. I have some work to do on mine. I wouldn't have thought of breaking it all down like that.

Kevin

[K4D]

2010

[CityGirl]

I have been working on weekly/monthly/long term goal lists for some time now. I understand the first list can seem overwhelming.

That being said....

There is not ONE short term goal that you can think of that you can begin working on in the next few days that is for you and YOU only? Not one?

I don't know what "2010" means as per your last post.

I hope one day you realize how powerful and productive you can be if you simply make *some* or *any* effort to organize your mind and really make a plan on how to accomplish things. Forget "things", how about one?

The whole idea of this is to be accountable to yourself and force yourself to get on the path to progress. If you post some goals (and they should be ever evolving because life cannot be planned to a "t") then maybe we can check in with each other from time to time and (A) celebrate achievements we each make and (B) help keep each other motivated when necessary.

I won't hold your hand though. I did the work on my goal list and now you need to. Happy New Year! Happy New Decade!

[K4D]

I won't hold your hand though.

I am not asking you to hold my hand. I appreciate the support we can give each other. I will have my goals posted by this weekend.

Kevin

[CityGirl]

Cool!

[K4D]

My top is blown.

I got to W's house after work to pick up my girls. I went in, she had the place looking spotless. She was dressed up. She had the maids come by. OM was going to be arriving shortly and is spending the rest of the week and weenend there. She is introducing them to the kids tomorrow as they are all going bowling.

I'm done. She can have her D. I am more than pissed off right now. I want her out of my life. I don't ever want to see her or hear from her again. I don't even want to know she exists anymore. I am going to have to work something out when exchanging the kids so I no longer have to see her or here from her. I can make any emergencies or other stuff strictly via email. I am splitting the accounts all at once. If she doesn't file next week, I can just go ahead and file the week after. I don't care what the church says. I'm done. This is hopeless.

I can't believe she has the nerve to introduce this freakin low life loser to my kids.

I give up. She wins.

Kevin

[Tomato]

yo K

[CityGirl]

Calm down.

Inhale deeply and exhale.

I am about to have dinner with my sister but will try and pop back in later to see how you are.

Do not let anger dictate your actions. Let good sense and what is best for you and your kids dictate your actions.

I know this hurts and it is okay to be hurt and angry for a bit but then you need to make a plan.

[Startingover2]

(((KEV)))

This sucks and I am sorry. Agree with CG...just sit on things and not make any decisions yet or fly off the handle. In reality this is what has been happening all along, just not right under your nose.

For the record I am supportive of something being done either way. If your W is openly dating and bringing OM around your kids then she needs to own it and file for D. Can't have the best of both worlds.

Hang in there! I will be checking in on you tonight as well!