You know, honestly, I'd rather have him served the D papers now than having him serve me. It'll hurt me a lot to have more rejection from him. He'll respond with D papers to the order for financial support according to my L. I'm going to think it over. I've been told a couple times here that he should do all the legwork.
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My L said she sees it as a psychological tactic on my part with him. She thought it wasn't a good idea and a waste of time. Thoughts?
Do you mean your L sees YOU serving HIM as a psychological tactic on your part?
I have to agree with her. And so do you by what you said:
[quote] You know, honestly, I'd rather have him served the D papers now than having him serve me. It'll hurt me a lot to have more rejection from him.
However, I'm not going to pretend I understand why it would be more rejection that he serves you as my W can't serve me so I haven't had to think in those terms.
I do agree that he should do all the legwork here.
But, we're not you DBD. Whatever gives you peace in your mind and heart is what is important. If serving him will do that (and I do not honestly believe it will for you, but that's just my opinion) then that is what you need to do.
Remember that once you D him, you can't turn the clock back so make sure it is what YOU want and not what HE is making YOU do.
If it were me, I would do the order for financial support and leave it at that. Think things over. Remember once that order is in place the arguing may well stop because the one thing he has over your head is gone. The next thing that will become a problem is visitation and that can be easily sorted with a contact schedule. Once that is out of the way, what else is there for you guys to argue about really?
Me 36, W 34 | D 8 | M 3.5y Sep 2Aug09 | Left 6Sep09 | OM in 10Oct09 | NC 17Nov09 | Gave up caring - Jan 2010
"Have integrity. Do what is right, not what is expedient." "Delay is the antidote for anger"
