Had my first spat in ages with XH tonight. D14 is supposed to be in his care this week. He picked her up Sunday, she spent all day monday out shopping with friends, spent the day which led to a sleepover with one friend yesterday and today she has been at mine all day whilst I've been at work. She left here about 7.30pm to go and see her friend. At 8.40pm I got a call from her asking if I would pick her up and drop her back at XHs. Despite it not being my week to have her and despite me being up to my neck in essays that are due in on 14th Jan I readily agreed. She said she had to be in by 10pm so I arranged to pick her up at her friend's house at 9.40pm. I was there early. When I enquired why XH hadn't picked her up she told me he was at his mother's and that she she walk there to meet them. He then told they had walked there (probably to try and induce now very late baby)so she would have to walk home with them but it probably wouldn't be until 11pm. She sid she didn't want to do this so he told her to walk home by herself. Hence why she rang me. It's the first time I've bben to his new house and I got lost. D14 was panicking that she would be late and XH would dock her pocket money. So eventually I told her to ring H, get the postcode off him and thenI could ifnd it using my sat nav. It took 3 attempts for him to answer. We were actually only just around the corner but he still wasn't home when we arrived. I was furious that she was being expected to go into an empty house by herself at this time of night. When I got home I TMd and said I didn't expect a 14yr old to be told to walk 2-3 miles home in the dark by herslef and that if it happened again I would taek legal advice. He replied telling me it was me who had refused to pick her up in the first place and that my university work obviously took precedence over her! He gave his usual response whenI TM him and said if I contacted him again on that number he would take out an injunction. I replied........... telling him that actually I had taken her and that he should get his facts straight (he clearly still wasn't home himself). He said he offered to walk back with her after I refused to pick her up and suggested I get my facts straight. As I already pointed out I didnt refuse. He told me again not to reply or he would instruct his solicitor in the morning. I didn't reply but not because of his instruction but b/c I couldn't be bothered to argue about things that I knew hwe was lying about. He will think he has scared me off. I'm seriously considering contacting my own L about this just to show him that I no longer feel threatend by him.
Me 43 XH 45 M 2.7.88 Divorce 7.10.09 Kids D20,S17 & D15
and that my university work obviously took precedence over her! He gave his usual response whenI TM him and said if I contacted him again on that number he would take out an injunction. I replied........... telling him that actually I had taken her and that he should get his facts straight (he clearly still wasn't home himself). He said he offered to walk back with her after I refused to pick her up and suggested I get my facts straight. As I already pointed out I didnt refuse. He told me again not to reply or he would instruct his solicitor in the morning. I didn't reply but not because of his instruction but b/c I couldn't be bothered to argue about things that I knew hwe was lying about. He will think he has scared me off. I'm seriously considering contacting my own L about this just to show him that I no longer feel threatend by him.
