Wife wants best of both worlds

[MHL]

Way to go dwinter!!!! I think that is just great. I felt exactly the same way when I started treating my W with love in spite of what she has done. You have also demonstrated that you can be her friend by trying to help with sitch between her and your parents. Yes it is absolutely, 100% her fault but she is not in her right mind, have pity on her, she does not know better. Remember she is a drug addict, and she is high on the feelings of the new R.
Just watch out, the lows are lower and a little harder to work through but you get through them. Come here to vent and get support, don't tell anyone what you are doing, it would get back to her and your back to square one. Keep being upbeat and positive with her, don't over do it. The next time you see her or talk to her ask her about her day and shut up, watch what happens. People love to talk about themselves and they love to be with people who listen to them, you can be that person. Read Love Languages, speak her language whatever it is.