Separated, new baby, but still hopeful

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Newmama,

Can I offer an alternative explanation on this. I think I have some insight, as I have done exactly this before. However I may be wrong (and I really do hope I am). But it's food for thought if nothing else.

Your H feels guilty. That is why, I believe the texts and the long phone call. Easing his guilt and convincing you of his reason.

You might be tired. Fancy watching the TV. Going out. Playing a computer game or just time to yourself. You see the weather and think you have your excuse so you call your childs mum / dad and say 'hey the weather is bad, don't think I should come to see little Bobbi as it's a bit dangerous' then you wait for the fallout. When there is none (which in your case there wasn't), you feel relief but you also feel a little guilty that you've had such a nice reaction to your lie excuse that you text and call the other parent to be nice to them back and also continue to convince them, AND YOU, of your excuse. See your not a bad person, you're chatting away to the other parent. You're a good person really.

I have done it. I think we all probably have. Not going to say it was my best moment but if it helps you some good came out of it.

I hope I am wrong, but it's just another viewpoint.

I have a lot of time for you and your H as I think he is confused but you got to keep remembering, he, and OW, are having an affair with all the lies, deceit and manipulation that entails.