Why does he need to know who your L is from you? Have your L contact his L. Thats what they are paid for.
Ignore everything else.
So I guess I should only respond that, no, I'm not interested in collaborative divorce. (I don't trust him and it's not in my best interest IMO.)
No. Don't respond with anything. What difference does it make to HIM if you want a collaborative divorce of not? Let your L sort this out. What is he going to do with the information?
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Ugh. I feel like this is an ultimatum from him to get me to contact him and the end of the road.
It may be DBD. It is definitely a test for you to contact him.
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Didn't get an apology or remorse from him. His guilt wasn't strong enough to wake him up.
DBD, be honest. Did you expect it to?
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But then, my IC told me his guilt is what is making him soooo nasty and as I've heard, it's all about him and not me. I'm conflicted right now.
My guess exactly - the guilt is causing him to lash out at you as you are the reminder of his guilt (in his mind anyway - if you weren't around he wouldn't feel guilty for what he has done to you).
Why are you conflicted? Why do you HAVE to do anything other than get the financial settlement (it was just that you were looking at wasn't it)?
Me 36, W 34 | D 8 | M 3.5y Sep 2Aug09 | Left 6Sep09 | OM in 10Oct09 | NC 17Nov09 | Gave up caring - Jan 2010
"Have integrity. Do what is right, not what is expedient." "Delay is the antidote for anger"
