Need Some Qwik Advice

[OnceBurdened]

Last nite was not good at all. Got snowed in and couldn't leave for wings and beer.

After being cornered and hit and grabbed and told this and that I had it and let her have it. Basically wasn't given any room to breath, she wouldn't allow a dignified exit so I went after it. After I thought she was hoarse and I made my way out of the room. I went to Kitcen.

I circled the date she is supposed to be out on the calander, marked off the days since I told her .

I started packing some stuff- she went BALISTIC. Threw a bowl,I kept packin; hit me - I kept on Packin! She got in my face told me i was verbally abusive- I kept on packin - THAN She said " I guess I should've kept my mouth shut"

I said " Maybe it was the legs"

I hate myself for saying that now BUT she left me alone the rest of the nite.

This morning she wants to talk, I listen don't say a word -

" I know what you want me to do and I 'm not sure what to do with that right now. My A is the number one reason you want a divorce. Well it isn't the reason I want a seperation or break or whatever i want. I don't always know what to say and my mind is so full of stuff right now I can't think straight. It's not that I don't care about you or us or our marriage.It's not that I don't love you - it's I am really messed up right now. I want to come home tonite and talk about it again, can we do that?."

I told her to call me later, maybe we could discuss it.