I don't know what to do now. I was planning to tell W that she can move out if she wants to since she wants the divorce and the lawyer that I just talked to said that a judge can remove me from my own house. So how do I proceed from here? I am so frustrated. Please help.
Hey, I know it is confusing, but it is important to make decisions that are not based on fear.
Lets start with the house. Do you want to live there? If you say yes, then "I have decided I am not moving out of my house."
Everyone else can react however they want, you will then need to calmly respond.
Example: If lawyer says any thing about judges making decisions, then you can calmly respond "I understand. Until a judge orders me out of my house, I plan on staying."
Example: If wife says anything, calmly say "I can see why you would feel that way. I have decided to stay in my house. You are free to leave if you want"
If she threatens to take your child, calmly say "I am sorry you feel that way. You are free to leave, but if you remove our child from the marital home, I will file an injunction with the courts."
Of course, you could just listen and validate, then come back here get a good response to send in letter, text or emails.....
"What is best for my kids is best for me" Amor Fati Link to quotes: https://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2879712
Yes I want to stay in my home and I want to save my M. Thanks again for the words to use. I needed the encouragement. Not even two weeks since the bomb. Just trying to focus on the important things, my son and I. Going back home tomorrow wife will be there on Saturday the the work begins.
Old Pilot,
Thank you for the links. I have bookmarked them and read them both. They are very helpful. What a great resource. I am so glad I found this site.
"The first step in the acquisition of wisdom is silence, the second listening, the third memory, the fourth practice, the fifth teaching others." Solomon Ibn Gabriol
My wife transferred 1350 from our joint checking to a different account that I do not have access to. Leaving me 900. I am going out now to get a separate account in just a moment. But Should I, or How do I confront her on this?
Any thoughts?
"The first step in the acquisition of wisdom is silence, the second listening, the third memory, the fourth practice, the fifth teaching others." Solomon Ibn Gabriol
She is hiring a attorney you need to start interviewing some.
M22,H45,W45 S21/18D12 Retain faith that you will prevail in the end, regardless of the difficulties and at the same time confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.
My wife transferred 1350 from our joint checking to a different account that I do not have access to. Leaving me 900. I am going out now to get a separate account in just a moment. But Should I, or How do I confront her on this?
"When you remove $1350 of OUR money without my consent, I feel that is disrespectful, I want to know where this money went and for what."
If she responds with "To pay A", Then you respond "I am sorry you feel A's are the solution to our issues. I understand the A will devastate us financially. I believe the cheapest and best solution is for us to fill out the D paperwork and submit it ourselves.
"What is best for my kids is best for me" Amor Fati Link to quotes: https://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2879712
I have talked with one and will schedule a couple more next week. I have two more wonderful days to spend with my S3
R2C,
Again, thank you for the words. Keep them coming. I just have to remember to breath & stand up for myself.
"The first step in the acquisition of wisdom is silence, the second listening, the third memory, the fourth practice, the fifth teaching others." Solomon Ibn Gabriol
I went shopping (180) alone, well w/ S3. Didn't buy anything but next time I am going to go w/o my S and say something like: I want a pair of jeans that accentuate my best feature, my bum; what can you suggest? I also think that the sizes have changed because my usual size was too big. Anyway I think that I heard something about that most men only buy their own underwear for about 10 years ages 16-26 before 16 Mom after 26 Wife. Having a great day w/ my S. Hope ev1 has a safe and happy New Year's.
"The first step in the acquisition of wisdom is silence, the second listening, the third memory, the fourth practice, the fifth teaching others." Solomon Ibn Gabriol
I have read what you have posted and i think with time and patience you will get what you want. I can see you are staying upbeat and i'm sure that will help.
me 37 w 37 s8 d6 bomb 09/21/09 IDLY I move out 10/04/09
