Thanks for your wisdom. I agree with you. H worked incredibly hard and so did I. I was aware of my commitments to the family and regulated my hours and this, too was easier for me than him. My LL is Quality Time so that made it even more difficult for me to accept his non attendance at events and his lack of involvement.
H has said, like you, that he now realises that life is too short and is making the most of things. While I appreciate his personal growth it doesn't change the pain I feel when I know he is doing all the things I wish he'd shared with me. In fact, the outings and holidays are remarkably similar to those we would have chosen as a couple. OW is ten years younger and so I wonder at some of the music choices in her eyes. I am still certain the holidays and outings are all driven by him and she goes along for the ride.
It was really helpful to read your experience and I thank you for sharing.
