I'm not sure if I should just post questions as they come to me or start a post for my "sitch". We have been separated for 2 1/2 months now and are selling our house and I am stuck prepping it for the sale. I should note that I want to keep the house, but the wife wants to sell to get the equity. One of the things the realtor said was to paint the walls an off-white/beige color. No problem, wife says to come over to her new rent house and see how it is painted. My question/comment is that I have no desire to see her "new place". In fact I would like to tell her that that is her new place, her new life and that she has made it clear that she no longer wants me in her life, therefore I do not belong there. I am just running it past the folks here before I say anything. Help is much appreciated.
Steve (the no-biotch-crazy-wife-gonna-make-me-sell-my-house) realtor to the rescue.
First off - the entry wall/ main foyer / first room you see in the house - paint it F**KING ORANGE! puke orange and tear out the ceiling dry wall and insulation to fix that leak you have been meaning to fix for years. (lets see, nope not interested lets look at the next house for sale)
next - your bedroom - feng shui - what color would you like for the next year or two? good choice!
and your living room - this is where you'll do most of your entertaining. make it entertaining.
and me personally- i have always wanted to rebuild an engine in my kitchen. kinda rhymes.
(wait till the courts make you sell it dude, if you want it. if she doesnt want you in her life, why do you need to paint YOUR life the way she wants its?
Steve (the no-biotch-crazy-wife-gonna-make-me-sell-my-house) realtor to the rescue.
First off - the entry wall/ main foyer / first room you see in the house - paint it F**KING ORANGE! puke orange and tear out the ceiling dry wall and insulation to fix that leak you have been meaning to fix for years. (lets see, nope not interested lets look at the next house for sale)
next - your bedroom - feng shui - what color would you like for the next year or two? good choice!
and your living room - this is where you'll do most of your entertaining. make it entertaining.
and me personally- i have always wanted to rebuild an engine in my kitchen. kinda rhymes.
(wait till the courts make you sell it dude, if you want it. if she doesnt want you in her life, why do you need to paint YOUR life the way she wants its?
I sometimes wonder if Steve is my twin brother and we were separated at birth, he's slightly more edgy and has a better handle on the cuss words.
Seriously geo, if you want to sell the house, sell it because you want to sell it, not because she's telling you to sell it. If you have to sell it because you can't afford it on your own, I guess sell it then but don't sell it because she told you to sell it.
When the divorce is finalized if it gets to that, that's when the marital assets will be split up according to the proposed settlement, why are you doing this work now if you don't have to?
Like... What the F!@#$%*!
(I tried steve, I still don't have it)
I have a friend that sent out a christmas card, he had someone take a pic of him on his harley and his two big dogs one on each side of him while sitting on his bike, the pic was taken inside of his living room - that's where he keeps pride & joy in the winter.
I'm thinking you can do something similar - make it about you though, a personal statement about how you want to express yourself.
Orange is a wicked color! Pink works too princess ;-)
Thanks guys. I can't afford it on my own and I am trying to do what needs to be done to get a good price. There are things that need to be done now (replace kitchen floor, finish drywall) that I am working on now, and then the painting will be last if necessary. We did paint the bathroom orange and I want to keep it that way.
I'd like to ask you a few of questions if you don't mind. So far all I've read is you doing this or that to please and satisfy her.
What do YOU want? Why aren't you doing the things YOU want to do? Why are you letting her dictate the terms and conditions of everything?
I like what Steve wrote for you. It's PERFECT to NOT sell the house. Which I believe you don't want to. Cool! The longer you don't sell it... the longer she is going have to pay her share.
Start doing what YOU want.
Disclaimer: This was a drive by posting and stray bullets wounding innocent bystanders should be viewed as collateral damage and unintentional.
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