At first, I supported the idea of you moving back into your house when you kept talking about the financial strain and you didn't know if you should renew the lease on your apartment. But when I told you what to expect from your W if you did that....then you said that you "could" make it financially, but it was just hard. So, then I suggested that since "you" were the one to decide to move out and "you" were the one who volunteered so much money to your W who already made more than you did.....I felt (as a former WAW) that she would see your move back into the home as being very weak. I still think she would! If you moved back in b/c you could not meet the financial obligations that "you" offered when you left. I know that it would be a huge turn-off if it were my H. It would result in losing more respect instead of gaining it, b/c of the circumstances surrounding it. That is JMHO.
But if I remember correctly, that was the question and how you related it to me. Then you were talking about how it would confused the girls,etc. You kept bouncing it around until the whole thing got confusing for me.
Since that post, you have continued to talk about it and getting different POV from others....and adding that Sandi's advice was to "not" move back.
I sent a post earlier trying to respond to your last request here on my thread, but wasn't sure what it was you wanted my opinion on. Anyway, I don't think I make myself understood very well and maybe you just need to talk to a lawyer about your options and what would be best for your kids.
I do want to say this.....you started out talking about one thing, then it changed, then it changed again. You need to make sure you are either talking about moving back home to 1) save the M; 2)for financial reasons; or 3)for the sake of the kids.
Do you see why this became very frustrating and confusing? So, I'm not upset or anything, but I don't want you to mistake my advice, either.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
