So, have you made any plans to do things you couldn't do w/them around? Nails? Dinner/Drinks w/girlfriends? Movies? Drinking cappuccino @ the bookstore...?
MF - No real plans as of yet. For NYE I have been invited over to a friends house, but I would be the only person without a significant other present. I am not sure if I am ready for that yet. As far as movies, dinner/drinks, etc. I have to laugh because this is the exact same advice I gave someone else awhile ago. Guess I just need to start following my own advice.
Originally Posted By: givingitmyall
The feelings related to being alone, you can overcome this. First, do you really think you will be (a) alone or (b) lonely for the rest of your life? Of course not. So, we can agree that your fear of being alone is unreasonable?
Unreasonable - Yes. But at this particular momment it is a real fear. It is a stupid fear really as I know I can handle things on my own. I don't consider myself as needy or too dependent.
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So, change your thought from an unreasonable belief to a reasonable one - I might be by myself for a little while, but I will not (a) be lonely or (b) be alone the rest of my life. Once you change your thought to a reasonable belief, your emotions will fall in line.
Most days I succeed at this. Yesterday I did not and today I am trying.
Thanks GIMA.
Me & H: 33 yrs S: 4 & 6 D: 2 M: 9 yrs ILYBNILWY: 8/09 SEPARATED: 9/09 The Beginning
