Thanks for the advice, PDT and for sharing your letter. I was wanting to write something like this, and it gives me an example to work out my own words. It reads much like the talk I had with her on Christmas Day when she finally contacted me, but I'd still like to put it in writing for her.

I chose to have W served at home, where she'll be alone, to avoid any embarrassment at work. Alternately, they will serve her at the dry cleaners she is working at. At least she won't have to worry about co-workers sneering at her as she only works with one person, her roommate. Her roommate has been aware of her actions long before I was made aware of them. Any customers who might be present mean nothing to W, so it won't be too bad for her if it comes to that.

Just nervously awaiting her reaction.


Me 45 WAW 36
S8
T 15 M 12
Multiple PA's since 6/07
W moved out 10/25/09
I filed D 12/29/09
Sitch