All signs point to game over!

[Cie la vie]

Well I was informed by my attorney that my STBX will not be responsible for any of the mortgage, taxes, insurance, utilities or up keep associated with our home when she moves out in the next few weeks. The court views it as me having exclusive possession of the home and as such she is not obligated to pay for anything. Amazing!

She files for divorce, I uncover the affair which she lied about not having, she than makes the decision to move out (which I was more than happy to see) and not by choice but by default I now have exclusive possession and the associated expense all to myself.

I have been waiting to receive DR for over a week now with out luck. However, I have been actively DBing for over a month now using techniques I have gleamed from this forum.

I have primarily been giving my wife a wide berth and making myself scarce. I have limited communication with her to children based conversation. I have not made any attempt to initiate any other conversation but I am pleasant and for the most part cheerful in my replies to any conversation she initiates beyond child rearing talk.

I missed the boat on establishing boundries and I'm not sure if I really was in position to establish any given the fact that she filed for D and I uncovered the A a couple of weeks later. The A has picked up significant momentum even given the long distance nature of it (see my initial post for details). My STBX purchased a web cam about a month ago to help bridge the distance gap and I wonder if I should have put a stop to that.

The D is moving along primarly becausing I am pushing it foward through Mediation. I don't feel I have any other leg to stand on to show her that her A is unacceptable to me. It seems to me that she would have allowed the D proceedings to linger in limbo had I not pushed for Mediation and continued to keep the ball rolling. In my heart I still very much lover her and still wish we could reconcile, however, she seems determine to end the M. The three comments she has made to me that resonate in my head are "I have moved on", "I am seeing this through" and "we will live seperate lives. I haven't seen anything to suggest she has budged off this line.

Am I making a mistake by pushing the D along or is this my only real move given the current state of affairs? She will be moving out in a couple of weeks, should I put the responsibility on her to keep the D moving along at that point?

My plan when you moves out is to go dark on her but it really seems as if that will suit her just fine as we barely see each other or talk as it is now. I am living in the spare bedroom downstairs while she is in our master bedroom. We have two children S3 D3 in the mix and temporary custody/visitation will likely be arranged at Mediation tomorrow. As a result there will be some contact during handoff's etc. All though most if not all of these may be through our Nanny.

Also, I am virtually certain that the OM is coming to town for to ring in the New Year with my STBX. This whole thing has me in a funk. I'm not letting on that I am anything but happy and moving on myself however. At least I believe I am projecting this.

I could use some DBing advice from the pro's here as I am lost on what my moves should be. I have been doing 180's and GAling but I haven't noticed any really changes in her behavior, except for the first night I went "out". I got myself groomed up, put on nice clothes and splashed on some cologne and went and had dinner and hit a movie (solo). I didn't get home until after midnight and I noticed she was still up with the light on in her room. The next morning I got up early (5:00 am) and headed off for the day with my buddies in Mnts. When I got home she was dealing with the kids and was clearly irritated. She didn't make mention of my night out but it rattled her and she went on the offensive. She claimed I was effing with her. I said how? She wouldn't expand. She than told me "go ahead and roll the dice go ahead see what happens. The implication being she would make the D proceedings difficult. I never lost my cool and acted like I had no idea what she meant by "roll the dice".

Any advice or suggestions please?