Thanks for your comments, Generosity. I decnided not to say anything because, as VH says, he wouldn't believe me anyway.
He must be okay with it now, anyway. I was leaving on Saturday morning, but my friend (who is driving) needs to go on Friday. I told her I had to ask H if he would mind changing his visit with the kids to a different day.
This morning, I emailed H and asked if he would visit on a different day. He asked when and I told him sometime after 1/4. He said okay.
So there you have it folks. My H is okay with me taking the kids on my weekend fling now.
So there you have it folks. My H is okay with me taking the kids on my weekend fling now.
Or he has come to the conclusion that there is nothing that he can do about it.
Kevin
Me 36, W 37 M: 08/02/97 D13, D9 1st Bomb 02/08 Reconciled 04/08 2nd Bomb: 09/08 W filed for D 02/04/09 Separated 03/09 D dismissed 06/09/09 Still separated...
You know, I am actually pretty happy about the New Year b/c I am ready to forget 2009. 2010 has to be better and it will, no matter what happens in my M.
Pay no attention to this. There is always a lot of acting that goes on.
It could be that taking the kids on a fling is prolly unlikely & not threatening to him.
Read up on some threads where the WAS was left to wonder. Pearl Harbor (her thread can be found by search I believe) is a good example of what happens when you let them pursue.
It all started when my H contacted me and asked for money...again! In that same conversation, he asked if I would be willing to consider doing this without lawyers. He said he couldn't afford one. I asked him if he really thought talking about divorce in the same conversation he asked for money was a good idea. His reply, I guess not.
Those of you on FB know that I loaned him money, but this time I said no.
Part of it is the whole being alone on New Years thing.
My H told me if I paid for the kids to visit, I could take them to live anywhere in the country that I want. He said he was okay with a few weeks in the summer.
That just breaks my heart. It's one thing to not care about me, but now can he so willingly be away from his babies??
Then, I told him about a health issue so I could make sure he didn't take me off the insurance, and he didn't even say hope you're okay. Ouch. I know he says he doesn't care about stuff that doesn't affect him, but geez, you would think he would want his kids' mother to be healthy.
The final straw to my depressing day was when D12 and D10 were talking about D12 marrying her "boyfriend" lol D10 says...who will be your Maid of Honor me or D8. D12 says they both will. Then she says... and mom can walk me down the aisle since she is raising me. I almost had a break down hearing that.
Later, D8 catches me looking a little sad. She asks if I am okay, I say yes and give her a hug. She leaves, and obviously said something to her sisters. D12 comes up to me and says, what are you so sad for? He wasn't that great. Ugh! Maybe not, but he's your father and you should think he is.
Basically, my day has kind of sucked.
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