Williaij..

Thank you for the comments, what also helped me along was to not "rush" a discussion/argument. think before you speak, even if it is for a few seconds that will help you avoid a knee jerk, reflex comment. (still haven't mastered that 100% yet but I am trying)

Ask yourself "Is what I'm about to say get me to my goal or push me away?. The pause also underscores the fact that you just LISTENED to what the W just said and your thinking about how to respond...

Last edited by DDogs; 12/30/09 06:01 PM.
DD

H50
W44
M17 yrs
S15
D11
D10
Bomb 4/09
Trial separation/moved out 9/09
Moved back in 12/29/09