She is dealing with a lot of inner turmoil. However, she keeps repeating and maintains that she wants out of this marriage.
Notice how she has to keep repeating that to herself, I don't think she's trying to do that to convince you, I think she's trying to convince herself - you have changed the momentum of everything that's been going on.
The idea is to stop pursuing her altogether, you actually have to move in the opposite direction, she's used to you pursuing, she's used to you wanting to fix this marriage, she's used to you wanting her, now you have to do the opposite.
She wants out of the marriage - you agree. She tells you that you guys could never work things out - you agree.
YOU (as in you tridoc) don't want to be with anyone that isn't with you by choice (quoting Gucci on this one as it's so important to understand).
She doesn't want to be with you, you get it, you understand, you were foolish for trying to hold on to someone who doesn't want to be with you. You get it now, you don't want to be in this marriage anymore either, why would you want to be with someone who doesn't want to be with you?
You've done good, keep up this momentum.
Robx,,, what would your response be to the W if the W then states, "well H, since you agree, then lets go and get this D done ASAP, over and done with right now!" I'm asking because that is something along the lines my W would probably say..
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H50 W44 M17 yrs S15 D11 D10 Bomb 4/09 Trial separation/moved out 9/09 Moved back in 12/29/09