Originally Posted By: motherof3
Originally Posted By: givingitmyall
Can you pinpoint why you are feeling the way you do right now? It's usually some fear that is based on an unreasonable belief.


Yes, I think it came down to the fact that yesterday I felt so completely alone. That and the fact that H took the kids for the week to celebrate Christmas with his family (and what used to be mine). They celebrated without me. Before they left S6 asked me why I wasn't going with them. I so badly wanted to explain that I wasn't going because daddy didn't want me to.

I am feeling a little better today, but not much.


The feelings related to being away from them on Christmas is understandable....and temporary.

The feelings related to being alone, you can overcome this. First, do you really think you will be (a) alone or (b) lonely for the rest of your life? Of course not. So, we can agree that your fear of being alone is unreasonable?

So, change your thought from an unreasonable belief to a reasonable one - I might be by myself for a little while, but I will not (a) be lonely or (b) be alone the rest of my life. Once you change your thought to a reasonable belief, your emotions will fall in line.

Try it. It works.


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