Complicated Sitch (Aren't they all?)

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Healthy relationships occur between two healthy people. If every situations ends in your paying penance for mistakes in the past.. that works against both of you. Either he's forgiven you, you've forgiven yourself or you both choose to work on it.

Have faith. And if the past never goes away, how can you have a future?

Yes.

I want to be with my husband, but I do not NEED to be.

Yes. This is true.

Here's a helpful way to make a decision:

If it's right, say yes.
If it feels wrong, say no.
If you waffle or can't decide, the answer is no.

Yes to ALL of this.

Thanks Gypsy. Very good advice Many of my friends think I am crazy for sticking with him while he is divorcing me, but I feel in my heart it is time to stand by and be strong.

You have to live your life for you. While they are offering opinions and support, that's great, but you need to do what you need to do.

Keep up with your AA meetings.