Talked to my attorney five minutes ago. He seems on top of things, so that's good. His advice to me:
-per wife's lawyer, they are not rushing to file -my chances for "busting" the affair obviously improve over time, and the way to buy time is to simply take this process slowly. -filing on my end would be counterproductive, since all the money to pay the attorney's essentially comes out of my pocket anyway -I shouldn't do ANYTHING that would cause her to lose her job, thus no talking to people at bank and/or ex-wife of Mr Dbag. So I'm glad I've waited on those. -only things I should document are things that relate to her "hurting" kids, i.e., her lawyer informed her that she should NOT have the kids around mr dbag. If she breaks that, I am to notify my lawyer, and he said her lawyer will be pissed and probably drop her. -I should open new accounts at a bank that my wife does NOT work at and sleep with higher ups at. lol -Ive asked my lawyer to relay to her lawyer that I would like the affair ended. She has a right to deny that, but I thought it was nice to add that touch. -my focus right now should be to complete the worksheets on the financials that they gave us.
I told my lawyer that I want to delay, and take things nice and slow. I've gotta trust that time will be my ally here, even though I'm scared of relying solely on that.
