I went home and showed up as the new me. My W was quiet at first then said, “Why did you get contacts and why did you get new clothes?” “Where have you been all day?” “Why didn’t you check in and tell me where you were?”
A: "I guess I didn't want to."
or
"I guess I no longer feel the need to."
The only thing I'd be careful of, is this one:
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I went over to the table and then she proceeded to raise her voice and tell me why I didn’t have the right to be running around town doing all these things for myself when I was needed at home. I said “ I didn’t know you felt that way. I thought you liked it when I wasn’t around”
That last part is bordering on what I call "needy/grabby." You don't want to make it look like you are doing the 180s and GALs to get a response out of her; you are doing them because -- for YOU -- they are The Right Thing to Do at this time.
But really, overall, you handled the whole day beautifully. Keep this up, and you WILL notice the whole dynamic suddenly change. Don't get me wrong -- her mood will alter between syrupy-sweet and fits of rage, as she tries various things to "get you back in your place," but it will definitely change!
